"Princess in the tower" syndrome

This week was very hard for me. I had to do and to learn many technical things. It's not so interesting and in the evening I was too tired and down. I could not write more and I received different mails these last days asking me what is happend.

As it happens frequently, I'm thinking about a psychological problem today. This blog is mostly about psychological problems, you see ;)). I can change the name of the blog for something like "human behaviour" already.

So, this time I think about "princess in the tower" syndrome. Take the oath, I invented this name myself.

You remember -a very beautiful knight on the white horse races near a high tower and sees a little window on the top of this tower and a crying princess looking through the window... The princess is waiting for a prince. She does nothing to change her situation. She knows it's unpossible to go out from the tower. And she waits that somebody comes to help her.

So the biggest problem is to accept the situation. Second is to accept the thought "I'm not able to change" because "I am not the right person to do it". And so those become 2 problems, not 1. Not only the situation is difficult to resolve, but we have not enough self-estimate.

We have to begin to resolve our problems with this last.
Where we have to begin from?
The very interesting thing is: we need only our words to help us. And time. Maybe some months. To explain to our mind the "new theory".

So the first thing to do is to make a note when we have not enough self-estimate. (it's enough to note it every time only, to show the problem to our inconscious)
Second. Repeat at least 10 times many times a day "I'm able to do everything and I'll reach this pick". I'm good and precious person so as I am". If you do it for a long enough time you'll see, when next problem comes your different attitude.

What will change?
You remember the end of the fable? The princess had very long hair, she threw the end of the hair down through the window and the hair was so long to reach the earth. The prince went up using the hair as a rope.
Now, if the princess was so unhappy and had a great wish to run away, why couldn't she use the same way for it?

There was an other possibility. The same way, the same tool. But she could do it herself, without help, without waiting years and years that somebody would pass near her tower. Fasten her hair and go down using it as a rope.

Once our inconscious knows, it's able to do everything and has not to think somebody will criticize it, it begins to value the situation not from negative but from positive point of view.

There are other 2 "tools" - open-your-heart exercise and purification visiting holy places and listening and reciting prayers.
What do you think about it?

Modifying of our behaviour using psychology, -or anti-wars thoughts

I was looking for psychological tips to create an interesting site this days and turned back to the thoughts I write here many times. We live in the world where everybody tries to modify our behavior using modern technologies.

I would call them the most distructive weapons of our times. One scientist knows what to do and sells his knowledge to those who can pay good. It's normal, we think. One sells a piece of bread to give you to eat,other sells psychological tips what to do that you go to kill your neighbor or somebody in Iraq (why this and not other country you'll find later).

I think it's the same: you are forced to buy what you don't need or to buy HERE and you are forced to kill others. The same because somebody is modifying your behaviour using psychological knowledges.

Don't believe me? Open first article with SEO-tips, content tips, writing tips. Visitor comes to you not to buy, but to see. You have to do this, this and this to attract his attention, you have to throw out free "giveaways" with "hooks" to stay in contact with him ecc ecc
If you don't follow those tips, you'll never have visitors and you and you can't even dream to sell.

Now if I need petroil to buy it to you, but I don't have it and I don't want to pay it, what have I do? I have to take it from somebody that has it. Have I do it myself? And maybe die? No. I have to send you or your son there using psychological tricks to modify your behaivour. Because you'll never send your son to die to give me gratis petroil that I'll sell you then. Simple, no?

We, simple little persons, understand it when our son remains dead in that country or when he turns back with his psychic all distructed. He (or we, his parents) understands now what is happend. But it is too late. For him, for us, for those whom killed our son, for those who killed our son. WHY??? To gift a source of enormous money to somebody...

You understand,I don't speak about A country. I tell it to you because I'm disgusted to see this massed appeal to everybody to modify our behaviour.

And here I give you a testimonial to these my thoughts that I found today. I don't say you I was shoked to read this site. No. I always say: we are in this world to create, not to destroy. To give happiness. And I would go there with these persons to support them. So I want to support them here, in this blog.

Anti-war Iraq vets reenact occupation at Washington DC landmarks

How can I create music videos with my photos

This time I'm fortunate to find a program where I can create music videos with my photos.
Fliptrack
Pratically slideshows with music like this.



I have many photos that are sometimes more beautiful as those I can find on the specialized e-card sites, but I'm not able to do them in the way they are as postcards.
So I send my photo with some words when I need. But I wanted something more beautiful, of course.

With Fliptrack (that is a program to download) I avoid an other problem -to chose the music. Because they have hundreds pre-licensed songs. You think that's no problem? It is. A month ago I found a "new way to create e-cards". Very beautiful one-photo-and-music e-card site. The only inconvenient was you have to find a photo and a soundtreck in the web yourself and download them then in that site. I have my photos in different specialized sites, so url isn't a question for me, I know what to do. Unfortunately I don't know where I have to go to take this legal music to download there. So I had to renounce that time. I envy my friends sending me those photos with glitters and other effects.

Second thing I like in Fliptrack is I can embed this my "video" in my blogs and sites. I have not special knowleges to create something myself, I tryed to learn but my head is maybe too old for this tricks. (One friend says, he is 90 and could learn it ;)) I have to be ashamed when I speak in this way) I like programs that do for me everything themselves.

Now I'll try to create something great with photos of my roses.
Now you can see my own creation, "The Song of the Lion" not too good, but it's the first...

Blue sky and lemon tree emotional state

there’s a heavy cloud inside my head

I’m sitting here in the boring room
It’s just another rainy Sunday afternoon
I’m wasting my time
I got nothing to do
I’m hanging around
I’m waiting for you
But nothing ever happens and I wonder

I’m driving around in my car
I’m driving too fast
I’m driving too far
I’d like to change my point of view
I feel so lonely
I’m waiting for you
But nothing ever happens and I wonder

I wonder how
I wonder why
Yesterday you told me ’bout the blue blue sky
And all that I can see is just a yellow lemon-tree
I’m turning my head up and down
I’m turning turning turning turning turning around
And all that I can see is just another lemon-tree

I’m sitting here
I miss the power
I’d like to go out taking a shower
But there’s a heavy cloud inside my head
I feel so tired
Put myself into bed
Well, nothing ever happens and I wonder

Isolation is not good for me
Isolation I don’t want to sit on the lemon-tree

I’m steppin’ around in the desert of joy
Baby anyhow I’ll get another toy
And everything will happen and you wonder

I wonder how
I wonder why
Yesterday you told me ’bout the blue blue sky
And all that I can see is just another lemon-tree
I’m turning my head up and down
I’m turning turning turning turning turning around
And all that I can see is just a yellow lemon-tree
And I wonder, wonder

I wonder how
I wonder why
Yesterday you told me ’bout the blue blue sky
And all that I can see, and all that I can see, and all that I can see
Is just a yellow lemon-tree

stolen here

Interesting thing: we rarely understand, other persons see the same world in completly different way. I would say everybody of us lives in a different world. We see it through our emotion of this moment and nobody can have the same emotional state at the same time. I read these thoughts every day in the web. Everybody asks: what have I do? There are comments everytime all with good advises. But all wisdom of the world can't help us when emotions create "heavy cloud" in our head.

Some weeks ago there was a man in one forum that burned 2 leaves and this action, that he felt as a rite, created in his soul so great emotion that he wanted all members of that community repeat it and share with him this experience. Nobody wanted even speak with him and the man was very angry and spread bad words about everybody for different days.

I think he was angry with himself he wrote that post. Because next day he had to understand -there is nothing from the "religious rite" in the simple action to burn leaves if you don't put special feelings, special emotions in this act.

"it shouldn't be taken personally" when somebody assault you. "it's hard not to" because we have our bad emotional state too. 1 piece of negative emotion + 1 piece of negative emotion = dobble negative emotion spread around us....

The world is like a mirror you see?
smile and your friends smile back
Japanese Zen saying

What a pity, free database for singles!

This evening I was amuzed to read a discussion "Does age matter?" in one of the forums of JustSayHi.com Persons that want to share their experience and not only read what others say I meet not often in the web.

And then this question I asked myself and my husband in the last weeks because read many articles about men married 20 -30 years younger girls. In one sence I understand those persons, because I had once a "boy-friend" 15 years older as me and it was the best love story in my life. But I think the stories like this need too much forces and energy to last for many years that need a family.This is like an ever braced bow.

I hope you will enjoy this forum. All this site is truly free. JustSayHi.com. I was surprised. You remember I wrote, many sites offer possibilities to meet persons but have hidden obstacles. You can join for free but you can't write to members or to chat with somebody if you don't pay for it. The same with the sites that offer you to learn languages. If you don't pay, the only thing you can do is to wait somebody of paid members writes you or send smiles to somebody. Maybe you know sites with other rules, I no. So I have today my profile in many many sites and sometimes somebody sends me a mail...

I don't remember if I have my profile on eHarmony maybe not, it's the site for singles that look for their copy and I looked for penpals. What a pity! I like this site so much! In an hour turns back my husband, I'll dismiss him and begin to look for a new one! ;-)))

Don't kill your child

There are women that can't have children. They do all they can, pay incredibly quantities of money, wait years and years to reach this aim.

Finaly the child is in their home.
Here begins something that I can't understand. We hear many stories when parents mistreat adopted children, sometimes kill them. Women that born 5-6 children after artificial insemination because "god gave us all them", and then have not money to give them to eat. Women that born the child at 65. "You are old, you can die. What will happen with your child?" -"There are so many orphans in Romania, there is no problem" (excuse me, I think it was there)

The other side of the same problem are mothers that make children. And kill them after this. I wrote about it in my other post here

What was happend in these 2 months that I write about it once more now?
In Italy some monasteries turned back to the medieval practices to save these children. Some monasteries had special weels in their walls. Woman that didn't want her child (young girls for example) could leave him in this weel and nobody could know who is the mother. I 've seen this weel in one of monasteries not far from Sorrento. Something like those doors in some hotels, that turn round and pass 1-2 persons.

Modern "weel" is not a weel but a window with a child-bed under it. The mother can open the window and post her child on this bed. Nobody sees her, asks documents or says one word.

Better then kill him or throw in the refuse.

The problem is to feel asleep all day

My great problem is I feel asleep all days. From the same moment I stand up in the morning. Normally I have to sleep about 9-10 hours but my husband likes to watch TV in bed till night and often I cant asleep when I want. So I thought I want to sleep really but if I try I can't. And I become headaches too.

For some time I could resolve it with coffe. I don't like it, but for the "holy aim"... I began from coffe cup, passed to tea cup and today it's not enough. The situation becomes very sad after meals. The life is praticaly impossible. But the cup (or two) of coffe helps better in the afternoon.

The great quantities of coffe are not good in other sence too: my nervous system don't like it.

Yesterday I read about Hlicobacter pilory that provokes headaches and fit, italian scientists say. Once I began to write about on the page Health and Diet Questions of My Interests Site. Some friends say it's only a new trend. They did this examinations and found nothing. My other suspect was food intollerance. You can find results of my research on the same page. But it seems to be not the matter in this case.

This morning I passed to look for help in internet. I always write here, in this Diary, everything I find interesting in the web. Or to tell you my doubts about ideas I find. But this time I could find nothing and write here to ask if there is somebody with the same problem and what do you do to feel awaken.

Insurance...?

What do you think about insurances?

Sincerely I've never thought about it. We have only obligatory car insurance. My friend from USA writes me, they insure everything. I read honestly the Insurance portalonline
she sent me to explain what it is. It's not because I don't understand the main aim of all this. The question is: in our age we have to be prevident.

Sometimes I begin to argue: today I'm young and in relatively good health, but who can be sure about the future? We live not far from Vesuvius and the scientists predict eruption in the next years. You know, my friend from Germany wrote me, her house remained without roof after the hurricane last year. Maybe the homeowners insurance could realy help as suggested on the FAQ-s page of Insurance portalonline . People waited the help of the state for 20 years after the last earthquake...

I don't know what to say. It's true from one side. The costs of the life grow everyday and the family realy can't stay the prices. My husband had a little car crash. An other car cut him the way. The repair shop wants 700 euro to repare an 8 cm hole. Incredible. We hope the car insurance can resolve this problem. I didn't knew the car insurance covers medical payments too (as I read in Insurance portalonline Guide). As for me, I woud protect population from motorists. I think they are kamikaze and costant public danger.

You'll say I become old. What it meens "old"? To be afraid that something can happen? Maybe americans are more clever as we. And they have not Vesuvius nearby :))) Think again...

Monetize you blog ( the story continue )

Many of you read my previous posts about web-earning possibilities. I told you my personal story. Mature person, I have to stay in my house,so I wanted to change specialization and to begin to work in internet.

New with PC I tried everything I found surfing the web and wrote about it in different posts here.
This is the story if you don't remember it:
Monetize your site (for beginners)
Work at home/home business opportunity scams
Once more about money making possibilities

I promised you to continue my story if I find more addresses and if I finaly can find my employer.
My last research was about possibilities to earn with blogging. In this field I found some useful addersses: Payperpost, Blogsvertise,Blogads. And I'll tell you about these sites later.

First of all I have to return to my previous post for those who follow my adventure.

You remember I filled my site with banners and buttons of different companies that had to pay % for every order they receive from my site. Now I have 4 months experience and say you: the "bad pals of the internet" had right. Statistic has right too.

The companies received from my site about 1000 impressions a month (more or less) with 20 -50 clicks and no one order in all this time.

The problem is first of all "the targeted audience" I think. I noticed: every hosting (or how have I call them) has audience with different interests. One site's visitors read more intellectual posts, others -more life stories, to give you an example. So you can have more success if you take good aim.

Second. There is a psychological side. Today every site is full of all these banners, links ecc so that you praticaly can't find the article you look for. Be honest: do YOU as visitor click all this? Why other visitors have to do it in your site?

And finaly to my last research.
It could be so good if I could earn something writing posts in my own blogs I thought. This job you can find if you are member of Guru.com and similar but the formalities are so complicate... and there are so many "middlemen" to pay...

Today I have some direct addresses as said: Payperpost, Blogsvertise, Blogads.
First of them was very discussed in internet. Some communities said it's not moral to post publicity in blogs, blogs are the only honest community in the web ecc. It was always, is and will be for ever very personal I think. What is interesting for us that this site wants only successful blogs,old and with many visitors.

Last of 3 sites is only for "influential bloggers" and "is now invitation only".

I'll try this: Blogsvertise. This site was very clear in rules description (you remember my misunderstanding with Adsence because of enormous documents to read ...), they don't look for special knowleges, they write very clear about payments and the only thing they want you have is your blog and paypal account.

Oh,forgot.There is an other site looking for bloggers. Web Worker Daily . This is address of an interesting article about bloggers job. I post here what are they looking for:

"If you are interested, post a review on your own blog showing how you can smartly critique any of the tools–software, hardware, or otherwise–that make virtual work fun and profitable. For extra credit, include tips and tricks for boosting productivity using those tools. Add a short bio at the end so we can see how you’re putting your own twist on the web worker life. Link back to this post and we’ll be sure to see it."

Let's dive in this new adventure? Who is with me?

I write about Italy

Italy with Love

In this period I began to write about places to visit in Italy.Today I have some posts with many photos on the special page Everything about Italy ready to read and to see. With time I'll add new stories, descriptions and photos, this is only beginning.I would be glad if you'll write me your suggestions.

My last passion are castles of our zone. They are infinite and some of them have very old and interesting history. Only some of them are spectacular as those you see in cinema but are worthy to visit,to see,to study because they represent the life as it was in the Middle Age really.